Dream Bigger EVENTS & CLASSES - For ALL Women & Girls:
- Beginning Spanish For Women & Girls: 6-WEEK CLASS BEGINS: THURS. OCT. 8th, 6pm. Contact us for sign-up & more detailed info [email protected] or 360-676-4675
- Spanish Step 2 For Women & Girls: 6-WEEK CLASS BEGINS: THURS. OCT. 8th, 7pm. Contact us for sign-up & more detailed info: [email protected] or 360-676-4675
- English as a 2nd Language for Spanish speaking women & girls: coming soon
- Self Defense for women & girls: coming very soon
- A Free-Will Offering Will Be Taken At Each Class Session
Donate securely through our online donation page.
*The Dream Bigger Dance Fundraiser at The Majestic Ballroom Was A Great Success! Thank you to those who volunteered, donated & danced!
*DREAM BIGGER TRAINING!*
Our first ever Training Seminar was a big success! Many thanks to Trainers Nancy Murphy of NW Family Life & Karen McAndless-Davis of When Love Hurts! Counselors, Students & Advocates were trained Jan. 8th/9th 2010. This training is offered in Canada & Seattle, but this was a first-time offering for us!
Thank You to Olive Garden & Quality Inn Baron Suites for providing the best ever Accomodations & Lunch!
Happy Birthday Dream Bigger
So Much Good In Just One Year!
*Washington State granted us official
certification as a non-profit Corporation!
*The IRS deemed us worthy of official
non Profit Charity Status!
*Dream Bigger Fashion Show was a hit!
Thank You Dancing For Joy!
WHEN LOVE HURTS COMES TO BELLINGHAM PUBLIC LIBRARY!
With several When Love Hurts Support Groups now offered in our community, the need for this book has increased, yet women often can't afford their own copy. The Bellingham Public Library responded to Dream Bigger's requests & has now made it available! Hurray!
DONATE YOUR OLD COMPUTER OR LAPTOP P L E A S E . . .
If you have a computer you'd like to donate, we'll put it to good use in our Scholarship & Computer Workshops. Call 360-676-4675 or email [email protected] Donations are tax deductible.
GIVE WITHOUT SPENDING ... ON-LINE SHOPPING WITH GOOD SHOP: *Good Shop ... up to 30% of every online purchase goes to Dream Bigger ... ALL YOUR FAVORITE STORES ARE HERE ... EBay, Amazon, all of them! just list Dream Bigger as the non profit you want to benefit. (I chose to download the SEARCH BAR, so I earn $ for Dream Bigger every time I search & Shop ... no chance of me forgetting) http://www.goodsearch.com/goodshop.aspx
GIVE WITHOUT SPENDING @GOOD SEARCH:
*Use Good Search Yahoo Search Engine Daily On Your Computer and Dream Bigger will Receive Cash Donations ... be sure to type in Dream Bigger when they ask what non profit you want to support. *Consider using Good Search as your default search engine on all your office/business computers. Some of our Firefighter friends are doing this at their stations ... they're searching & shopping while Dream Bigger gets paid for it! Thanks, Guys! (I chose to download the SEARCH BAR, so I earn $ for Dream Bigger every time I search & Shop ... no chance of me forgetting) http://www.goodsearch.com/
HAVE A *GIFT CARD* YOU WON'T USE?:
*Did you get a Gift Card as a gift & know you won't use it? Send it to Dream Bigger ... this could be SUCH an encouragement to a woman & her children who are going through a very painful & hard time ...
DREAM BIGGER IS IN NEED OF INCREASED FINANCIAL SUPPORT!
Monthly pledges and one-time donations are needed & appreciated! Your gifts would help provide books, trainings, workshops, community awareness & support for women & children. Women have shared how their lives were impacted by Dream Bigger & felt the support they received was Life-Changing! We're privileged to serve & thankful to have you as faithful pray-ers & supporters. If you know others who'd like to give, please share this. Employers often MATCH GIVING such as Intalco, Microsoft, Boeing & maybe even your employer! *Gifts are Tax Deductible through IRS non profit EIN #26-3898006. THANKYOU!
*** Creative Ways To Give To Dream Bigger ***
WHEN YOU GO GROCERY SHOPPING:
*Community Partners Giving at Albertsons. (Give Without Spending)
Each time you shop, Albertsons will donate to Dream Bigger.
*Pick up a GROCERY GIFT CARD to donate to Dream Bigger. $5, $10 or more ... would be a great encouragement to a woman & her children as they work very hard to create a safe new life.
VOLUNTEER GRANT-WRITER NEEDED!
If you have experience Grant-writing & would like to donate your time writing grants to help raise funds for Dream Bigger, we need you!
DREAM BIGGER HAS AN INTERNSHIP OPENING!
For those students in Social Services and Psychology Programs, consider working with Dream Bigger in preventing violence against women & children. Call 360-676-4675 to inquire.
*DREAM BIGGER IS A CHRISTIAN NON PROFIT 501(c)(3)
organization dedicated to preventing violence against women & children through advocacy, support, educational coaching, resourcing, workshops & some very serious Community Awareness!
... increasing family safety one home at a time
D R E A M B I G G E R
Exists to Prevent Violence Against Women & Children through Advocacy, Scholarship & Computer Workshops, Networking, Resourcing and some Very Serious Community Awareness!
Is Family Violence Really A Problem
In My Community?
Did You Know...
A boy who grows up witnessing his father abusing his mother is 1000% (one thousand percent) more likely to repeat that pattern when he grows up
#1 cause of birth defects is violence against women during pregnancy
Every day 4 women in the U.S. die as a result of intimate partner violence
50-75% of men who batter their wives also abuse their children
One woman every 15 seconds is battered by her intimate partner in America
Stop The Violence Before It Clones Itself Into The Next Generation
You Can Become More Informed by going to our "You Can Help Prevent Violence" Page
Finding the gaps in community services and working toward building new resources will help to eliminate womens suffering due to lack of resources. Most communities offer Rental Assistance to women and their children, but do not offer hope & help for those facing Foreclosure of their Homes! Dream Bigger is working tirelessly toward developing funds & resources toward developing an Action Plan & Fund to help women avoid losing their homes as a result of Domestic Violence. If you would like to help by donating to this fund, please do so on our Donation Page.Heating Assistance is commonly offered in cities year-round. In order to receive those services women must be at risk of having their utilities completely shut off and must provide the agency with a Shut Off Notice. This simply adds to their already deteriorating Credit History, setting them up for more future failure in the financial arena. Dream Bigger is helping to build-up and increase the Financial Future of women and their children. If you would like to help by offering finances for these women and/or offer Financial or Legal Coaching Services, please contact us through our Donate Page. Offering Children's Art Groups, Scholarship & Computer Workshops help build children up, increasing their chances of growing into healthy adults who will build safe and healthy families of their own.
You Can Help Prevent Violence
SOME GREAT RESOURCES TO EQUIP YOU SO YOU CAN HELP HER:
- Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft, www.WhyDoesHeDoThat.com (available at most public libraries)
- Protection and Healing: Understanding a Batterer's Impact on the Mother-Child Relationship Audio, Lundy Bancroft, June 2010:
- Video, When Love Hurts (available to view free online): http://www.dod.org/products/DOD2052.aspx
- Great Magazine Article: www.christianitytoday.com/tcw/2004/sepoct/11.68.html, This article refers to Don Stewart, author of "Refuge ... a pathway out of domestic violence and abuse", available at most public libraries.
- How To Help Your Friend Who Is Being Abused: http://www.womenshealth.gov/violence/prevent/how.cfm
- The Domestic Violence Victim In Court: http://www.faithtrustinstitute.org/blog/marie-fortune/53
THE VERY BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS *BELIEVE HER*, then:
HELP HER JOIN A WEEKLY SUPPORT GROUP FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS
specifically led by licensed Domestic Violence Counselors/Advocates
(not a Bible Study, not a 12-step group)
When Love Hurts is a great book to purchase for a friend who is struggling in a difficult marriage. More information and purchase instructions at: www.WhenLoveHurts.ca:
... OR... Read It Online at Google Books! http://books.google.com/booksid=qBFdlUnxmkkC&printsec=frontcover&dq=when+love+hurts&hl=en&ei=8Mm6TJn_FI-8sAOh7_WUCw&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1&ved=0CDEQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q&f=false
FIND A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SUPPORT GROUP NEAR YOU:
TAKING A STAND IN OUR COMMUNITY MEANS HOLDING MEN ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR VIOLENCE. Those raised in violent homes may have grown up to repeat the cycle, but they can decide to change - with the right help: http://lundybancroft.com/art_monitor_progs.html
These men are never the "type"; they may be:
*well-loved, charming community members
*extremely different in public than in private
*trying to convince you the wife is crazy & making up the violence
*armed with the mastery to manipulate any conversation
*able to twist conversations with the most discerning individiduals
*skilled at enlisting you as an unknowing participant in empowering them
*wanting you to think that he is not violent, but that he is instead the victim
*out to milk you for info about the wife & children putting them in more danger
*more covertly dangerous after separation; women are more often murdered then
*will keep focus OFF him because 95% of family violence is male against female
*very good at Image Control & Public Persona-you'd never suspect violence at home
*GAINING SKILLS TO HELP - IF VIOLENCE HAPPENS TO SOMEONE YOU KNOW:
We offer training events in our community. If you're willing to help raise funds for this crucial training, please log onto our donate page: http://dreambigger.bbnow.org/donate.php
Educating each member of our community will save lives: Frequently Asked Questions:
1. How do I assess our community's Batterer's Intervention Program? http://lundybancroft.com/art_monitor_progs.html
2. How can men hold violent men accountable and protect women & children? http://toolkit.endabuse.org/GetToWork/WhatMenAndBoys/TakingAction.html
3. Can violent men change their behaviors?
The Duluth Model: http://www.theduluthmodel.org/change.mp
4. Is violence against women & children really preventable?
Mentors in violence prevention: www.sportinsociety.org/mvp/index.php
5. My teenage daughter is involved in an abusive dating relationship:
Many informational resources in both English & Spanish: http://www.breakthecycle.org/resources-free-material.html
6. My relationship is painful, does anyone really understand?
When Love Hurts: http://www.WhenLoveHurts.ca
A VIOLENT MAN & HIS TACTICS:
His goal is to convince you that his partner is crazy, that she is making up these stories of violence. He'll try to convince you instead that HE is the victim. The truth is, in 95% of domestic violence, the perpetrator is male.
BREAK THE STEREO-TYPES:
We all have a neighbor, friend, relative or co-worker affected by family violence. The more informed you are, the better equipped you will be to help a woman & her children to cope with this terrible situation.
BE CAREFUL TALKING TO HIM:
These men are never the "type"; they are well-loved, charming community members armed with the mastery to manipulate the most discerning individual. Without proper training, most people unknowingly empower these violent men who are so "believable", which puts the woman & children in even more danger than they were before. He will use you to "gather information" about her, by pretending to care. His manipulative ways are very engrained.
Violent men are never the "type"
they are well-loved, charming community members
armed with the mastery to manipulate the most discerning individual
Anything you say to these violent men may be twisted & used to hurt the women & children. Remember, he can be deceptive, manipulative & skilled at Image-Control!
Family violence is about Power & Control, so he may threaten her to change her story or he "will hurt or take away the children", "cut off the finances", "physically hurt her", and the threats go on & on. One incident in & of itself may seem less severe to the average individual, but violent men terrorize their families day in & day out in the privacy of their own homes with multiple on-going daily control tactics. It's never "just a bad day" or "just one incident". Imagine being kidnapped & terrorized by somebody twice your social & financial power, someone who could harm or destroy everything that means the most to you. Suppose that person arranged a high-tech identity theft. The list goes on.
He may continue to build a Theatrical Production for the benefit of his Public Image to match his lies. His goal is to convince you that his partner is crazy, that she is making up these stories of violence. He'll try to get information from you about her in a very sly way, pretending that he cares, is innocent or repentant & he may try to convince you that he is actually the victim. The truth is, in 95% of domestic violence, the perpetrator is male.
Without proper training, most people unknowingly empower these violent men who are so "believable", putting the woman & children in even more danger, even risking their very lives! Don't under-estimate what these men are capable of, especially behind closed doors! You Can Become More Informed by going to our "You Can Help Prevent Violence" Page
Become More Informed ...
- Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft, www.WhyDoesHeDoThat.com
- Violence Among Us: Ministry to Families in Crisis by Brenda Branson, Paula J. Silva
- Violence Against Women and Children: A Christian Theological Sourcebook, Adams, Carol J., Marie Fortune, Mary Fortune, Eds. . New York: Continuum Books, 1996
- How Children Raise Parents: The Art of Listening to Your Family, Allender, Dan B.
- Colorado Springs, CO: Waterbrook Press, 2003.
- Battered into Submission: The Tragedy of Wife Abuse in the Christian Home Alsdurf, James and Phyllis Alsdurf, Downers Grove, IL: InterVaristy Press, 1989
- The Batterer, Dutton, Donald.New York: Basic Books, 1995
- The Abusive personality, Donald Dutton, The Guilford Press, 2002
- No Place for Abuse: Biblical &Practical Resources to Counteract Domestic Violence, Kroeger, Catherine Clark & Nancy Nason-Clark. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity
- God’s Reconciling Love: A Pastor’s Handbook on Domestic Violence, Nancy Murphy, Seattle, WA. FaithTrust Institute, 2003
COUNSELORS FOR VIOLENT MEN:
- Northwest Family Life Learning & Counseling Center www.northwestfamilylife.org
1015 NE 113th St. Seattle, WA 98125 (206) 363-9601
2400 North 45th Street #10
Seattle, Washington 98103
Northwest Family Life
1015 NE 113th Street
Seattle, Washington 98125
Email: [email protected]
Becoming more informed could save lives & families in our own neighborhoods
Our women & children need hope for their futures & a chance to Dream Bigger